A Guide to Traditional Afternoon Tea Etiquette

There are few traditions more closely associated with Britain than afternoon tea. Introduced in the 1840s by Anna, the seventh Duchess of Bedford, the ritual began as a simple solution to the long gap between luncheon and dinner. Over time, it evolved into one of Britain's most cherished social occasions, combining elegant surroundings, exceptional pastries, delicate finger sandwiches, and perfectly brewed tea - so why not enjoy an afternoon tea during your visit to one of our UK properties? 

From 10th – 16th August, Afternoon Tea Week offers the ideal opportunity to celebrate this enduring custom. From knowing which order to enjoy the courses to understanding the finer points of table etiquette, a little knowledge can make the experience feel even more rewarding. 

Here's everything you need to know before taking your seat. 

What Exactly Is Afternoon Tea?  

Afternoon tea is often confused with high tea, although the two traditions are quite different. 

Traditional afternoon tea is served between around 2 and 5pm and consists of three courses: delicate finger sandwiches, freshly baked scones served with clotted cream and preserves, followed by an assortment of pastries and cakes. A carefully selected tea accompanies each stage, although many modern hotels choose to elevate the experience by offering Champagne or sparkling wine for those celebrating a special occasion. 

High tea, by contrast, originated as a substantial early evening meal enjoyed by working families and typically includes savoury dishes such as pies, meats, and vegetables. 

For visitors travelling to London, afternoon tea remains one of the city's quintessential experiences, combining culinary craftsmanship with centuries of British tradition. 

The Traditional Order

One of the most common questions first-time guests ask is where to begin. 

While every venue has its own style, the classic order remains: 

• Finger sandwiches 

• Scones with clotted cream and jam 

• Cakes and pastries 

What Comes First, Jam or Cream? 

Perhaps no part of afternoon tea sparks more debate than the humble scone. 

Traditional etiquette recommends breaking your scone gently by hand rather than cutting it with a knife. Spread each half individually as you eat it rather than preparing the whole scone at once. 

As for whether the cream or jam comes first, opinions differ depending on where you are in the country. In Cornwall, jam traditionally comes first, followed by clotted cream. In Devon, the reverse is considered correct. 

Fortunately, there is no universal rule. Choose your preferred method and enjoy it with confidence. 

Tea Etiquette Worth Knowing

Tea itself deserves just as much attention as the food. When stirring your tea, avoid clinking the spoon against the sides of the cup. Instead, move the spoon gently backwards and forwards before placing it neatly on the saucer. 

Milk, if desired, should be added after the tea has been poured. Lemon should never accompany tea served with milk. 

When lifting your teacup, there's no need to extend your little finger - a common misconception popularised by television and films. Hold the handle naturally between your thumb and forefinger while supporting it comfortably with your middle finger. 

Dress Codes and Dining Etiquette

While afternoon tea is a relaxed occasion, smart attire helps reflect the elegance of the experience. 

Smart casual clothing is appropriate at most luxury hotels. Gentlemen may choose tailored trousers with a collared shirt, while dresses, skirts, or smart separates are equally suitable for ladies. Sportswear, beachwear, and overly casual clothing are generally best avoided. 

Table manners follow the same principles as any refined dining experience. Place your napkin on your lap after being seated, avoid reaching across the table, and take time to savour each course rather than rushing through the experience. Above all, remember that afternoon tea is meant to be enjoyed, so don't worry about getting every detail exactly right. However you choose to experience this much-loved British tradition, you'll always receive a warm welcome at Red Carnation Hotels.

Where to Experience Afternoon Tea

London remains one of the world's finest destinations for afternoon tea, with each neighbourhood offering its own interpretation of the tradition. 

For visitors wishing to combine sightseeing with an exceptional tea service, Red Carnation Hotels present several distinctive experiences across the capital. 

The Rubens at the Palace, Westminster

Moments from Buckingham Palace, The Rubens at the Palace serves one of London's most celebrated Royal Afternoon Teas, with views overlooking the Royal Mews - home to the Royal Family's historic working stables, state vehicles, and magnificent ceremonial carriages that continue to play a central role in royal occasions. 

Alongside the classic Royal Afternoon Tea, guests can elevate the occasion with a Champagne Afternoon Tea, while thoughtfully crafted vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, and halal menus ensure the experience can be enjoyed by a wide range of diners without compromising on flavour or presentation.  

Families are equally well catered for with the charming Little Prince and Princess Afternoon Tea, designed especially for younger guests with child-friendly sandwiches, pastries, and a choice of hot chocolate, milkshake, tea, or soft drink.  

Seasonal editions throughout the year also introduce imaginative pastries inspired by royal occasions and the changing seasons, making each visit a little different. It's an ideal stop after exploring Westminster, allowing visitors to continue a day immersed in royal heritage with one of London's most refined afternoon tea experiences. 

The Milestone Hotel & Residences, Kensington

Overlooking Kensington Gardens, The Milestone Hotel & Residences presents an award-winning Afternoon Tea that perfectly reflects the elegance of its Royal Borough location.  

Guests can choose from the traditional Afternoon Tea or add a celebratory touch with Champagne Afternoon Tea. For something especially indulgent, the Royal Afternoon Tea and Rosé Royal Afternoon Tea, designed for two, include half a bottle of Lanson Champagne alongside beautifully prepared finger sandwiches, handcrafted French pastries, delicate cakes, and warm scones with homemade preserves.  

Younger guests are welcomed with a dedicated Children's Afternoon Tea, while a calendar of seasonal experiences ensures there's always something new to discover.  

During the summer tennis season, the hotel's popular Wimbledon Afternoon Tea serves up playful, tennis-inspired pastries and savouries that tie two beloved Britsh traditions together, making it a wonderful choice for visitors enjoying the championship atmosphere in London.  

Seasonal offerings throughout the year, including festive menus, summer picnics in Kensington Gardens, and portrait experiences with the hotel's resident artist, add further variety to the experience. Following a visit to Kensington Palace, Hyde Park, or the nearby museums, it provides a fittingly elegant conclusion to a day of sightseeing. 

The Montague on the Gardens, Bloomsbury

For those exploring Bloomsbury and the neighbouring British Museum, The Montague on the Gardens offers a charming interpretation of the British afternoon tea tradition.

Alongside its classic Afternoon Tea and elegant Vegan Afternoon Tea, guests can now discover the Bayeux Tapestry Afternoon Tea, launching on 10th September to celebrate the historic return of the Bayeux Tapestry to England. Inspired by the craftsmanship and storytelling of this celebrated medieval masterpiece, it provides the perfect accompaniment to a visit to the British Museum's landmark exhibition.

During Afternoon Tea Week in August, the hotel also hosts its distinctive Montague Street Gardens Celebration, where guests collect their afternoon tea before enjoying it picnic-style within the exclusive surroundings of Montague Street Gardens. Normally reserved for residents with private access, these beautifully maintained Georgian gardens are rarely open to visitors, making the experience a rare opportunity to step behind the railings and discover one of Bloomsbury's most enchanting green spaces.

Throughout the year, themed afternoon teas and creative experiences ensure there is always something new to discover, from the Bayeux Tapestry Afternoon Tea and Sip & Paint sessions inspired by the exhibition to seasonal celebrations and other exclusive events.

It’s the perfect way to continue your day after visiting the neighbouring British Museum, before exploring Bloomsbury’s rich literary heritage. Within easy walking distance, discover the Charles Dickens Museum, browse the independent bookshops of Lamb’s Conduit Street or wander through the historic squares and streets associated with Virginia Woolf and the Bloomsbury Group.

The Egerton House Hotel, Knightsbridge

Tucked away in Knightsbridge, The Egerton House Hotel offers an intimate Afternoon Tea experience served within its elegant Tea Room, where attentive service and beautifully presented pastries create an atmosphere that feels wonderfully traditional. Small in size but exceptional in character, The Egerton is perfect for those who enjoy uncovering the lesser-known places that give London its charm. 

Alongside its classic Afternoon Tea and Champagne Afternoon Tea, the hotel caters thoughtfully for vegetarian, vegan, and gluten-free guests, ensuring everyone can enjoy this quintessential British ritual.  

During the summer months, guests can savour the Summer Afternoon Tea, featuring seasonal flavours and floral-inspired pâtisserie, before the menu transitions to the hotel's much-loved Best of British Afternoon Tea, available from early September until late November, celebrating iconic British ingredients and nostalgic desserts.  

One of the hotel's most distinctive experiences is its famous Doggy Afternoon Tea, available year-round (with dogs welcomed in the Tea Room on Thursdays and Sundays), allowing four-legged companions to enjoy their own three-tier stand of gourmet treats alongside their owners.  

Just moments from Harrods, the Victoria and Albert Museum, and Hyde Park, The Egerton House Hotel provides an elegant setting to pause after exploring Knightsbridge. 

The Chesterfield Mayfair

In the heart of Mayfair, The Chesterfield Mayfair has become renowned for combining classic British tradition with imaginative seasonal creativity.  

Alongside its traditional Afternoon Tea and Champagne Afternoon Tea, the hotel is home to the award-winning Original Sweet Shop Afternoon Tea, a playful experience inspired by the nostalgic charm of a traditional British sweet shop.  

Delicate pastries are transformed into elegant versions of childhood favourites, complemented by handcrafted cakes, colourful confectionery, freshly baked scones, and beautifully prepared finger sandwiches, creating an experience that delights both adults and children alike.  

Guests can also choose from vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, and halal menus, ensuring every visitor can enjoy the same attention to detail. Throughout the year, seasonal afternoon teas bring fresh inspiration to the menu, making every visit feel unique.  

Following a morning exploring Green Park, Bond Street, or nearby galleries, The Chesterfield provides a refined setting to pause over expertly brewed tea and one of London's most distinctive afternoon tea experiences. 

Experience Afternoon Tea at Red Carnation Hotels

Whether you're marking a special occasion, taking a break between London's iconic landmarks, or simply embracing one of Britain's most treasured traditions during Afternoon Tea Week, Red Carnation London Hotels offer an afternoon tea experience to suit every taste.  

Why not extend the occasion by booking an overnight stay, allowing you to experience the very best of each neighbourhood while enjoying the exceptional comfort, warm hospitality, and thoughtful service for which Red Carnation is renowned? Explore the collection, reserve your table, and discover why afternoon tea remains one of the most memorable ways to experience London.